Let’s talk about confidence, shall we?

Being confident is not something you can just do overnight. In fact, I believe that it’s a forever journey of self love. However, there are definitely ways that you can grow in confidence this year and I want to share some of those tips with you!

1. LEARN TO HAVE FUN ALONE
So many people depend on friends, romantic partners and even success to make them happy. I think a key to building confidence is learning how to enjoy your own company. Take yourself to the movies. Go sit in the park with coffee. Try something that gets you cozy being you.

2. REMOVE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
This one is huge! If there are people in your life that make you question yourself, it’s time to start distancing. We tend to keep people around out of fear or because they have always been there. But if they are distracting you or making you see yourself negatively, it could be best to walk away.

3. LEARN YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE
This helps with the being alone situation! Do you know what makes you happy? Words of affirmation? Someone doing a nice dead? A hug? Take the 5 love languages quiz and start practicing that language with yourself. For example, one of my love languages is words of affirmation. I practice my love language by journaling, collecting positive stickers and sayings and even my vision board.

4. GROW YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE
Not everyone is spiritual but my growing relationship with God has been my anchor in growing my confidence in love and my purpose. I encourage you to get curious to find something bigger than you. I am really active in church but also grow in my relationship with Jesus through reading my bible, watching sermons and having community with friends of faith.

5. WEAR THE SPECIAL OUTFIT NOW
Stop waiting for “that occasion” to where the outfit you love. Every day should be a fashion show. And stats show that when you look confident you feel that way! For me, these are earrings. I love to wear more bold and quirky earrings with my outfits and feel so good wearing them.

6. TAKE MORE PHOTOS OF YOURSELF
I know you think it’s bc I’m a photog but no REALLY. Getting comfortable in front of the camera truly boosts your confidence. It’s something even I am trying to grow at this year. One of my biggest goals is to take more self portraits this year. I take photos of everyone but hardly myself! This is a huge key to getting comfortable with yourself and I highly recommend.

I hope this helps you to be more confident in 2023. You got this!

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K, bye.